What they don't tell you in the college brochure (30 Day confidence challenge day 6)

After finishing my first semester of college, I realized that they left a few important notes out of the brochure. I go to Saint Francis University and these are somethings I noticed they left out of the brochure.

1. The weather- all the pictures are of when its sunny and beautiful. I call bullshit.  Where I go to school it rains every Thursday, not just a light rain, but more of a kayak to class kind of rain. Then when we got back from thanksgiving, it snowed nonstop from Sunday after thanksgiving until I left to come home on December 9th.

2. Community Showers- I know, ewww they sound gross. Honestly It is just like a shower at home, you just occasionally can never find the right temp. But don't worry, no one has to see you naked, so its all good.

3. You will love it up here- I'm gonna call a semi bullshit on this. The first few weeks are going to be really rough, not gonna lie. I called home maybe 4 or 5 times per day. What made it harder is having a long distance relationship that I wasn't very secure in. My tip, don't go to school in a long distance relationship unless you are 90% secure in it. Other wise, you will doubt and wonder and worry which is not good for your transitional experience.

4.Best friends- A college best friend can be found in the most unusual situation. I met my college best friend(s) because my boyfriend (at the time) broke up with me.  Leah (my absolute best friend) and I met when I was in the student union crying. The next day we spent the whole day together and ended up learning that we had a lot in common. Finding your best friend doesn't happen right away it may take weeks or months.

5 It takes time- to enjoy college and feel comfortable.  College is alot of work, but that doesn't mean that there isn't time for fun. Don't take "fun" as partying. Be safe, know who your with, and don't do anything that could risk your college career

Those kind of people (30 day confidence challenge day 5)

The other day I invited a close friend of mine from high school to go out with me to the club I talked about in an earlier post. Now mind you this isn't your normal its a "country" club its just alot of line dancing pool shooting and BSing.  We used to be what most people consider "country".  When we went to college I stayed how I was associating mainly with the "country" people while my friend went of and stopped caring about who she used to care about and started hanging out with people with opposing morals. Now when I asked her to come to the club with me she said that she "cannot be associated with people like me or people that go to the club"
The first thing about being confident is accepting where you came from and acknowledging that hey are it will always be a part of your background. Telling people that you can't "be associated" with them because they are part of your past (in a good way) is like saying you cannot accept part of your past and you are ashamed of it In order to be a completely confident you have to be confident with every aspect of yourself whether it is your past or your present.

Everybody needs a buddy (30 day confidence challenge day 4)

Me and Deneb

Leah and I

One important thing to have is a confidence buddy or two (A.K.A.) best friends. These are the people whom you can call at 2 a.m. to bitch about life, school, your roommate, boys, anything. I am lucky enough to have two Confidence buddies (or best friends). My first is my best friend Deneb. We grew up together at church and quickly became fiends. Deneb was my first friend that I knew no matter what time of day it was I could call him and talk to him about anything. He is the kind of person who knows that something is wrong even before picking up the phone. My other confidence buddy is my best friend from College. Leah and I met thanks to a nasty break up and we realized how much we had in common and be came best friends. Leah and i can talk about anything and automatically feel better about how things in life are going.
Mainly the important thing of a confidence buddy is to find some one who compliments you as a person and who can make you feel better about your self in every situation. A true confidence buddy is not some one who makes you want to eat rocks rather than feel better about your self.

The work out video (The 30 day confidence challenge day 3)

Most girls dread 2 things 1. going the gym and not feeling confident and 2. Going the gym and comparing yourself to the other people there and feeling even less confident then you did when you walked in there. I found a simple (and possibly less expensive way) to work out with out the uncomfortableness of the gym, work out DVD's. Today I decided to do Billy Blanks Tae Bo Boot camp abs. If you ever want to get your butt kicked into shape that would be the series to use. Doing work out Dvd's or even just work outs on TV can make you feel more comfortable with your own physical abilities and let you take things at your own pace. Even with work out videos if you do them two or three times a week you don't feel pressured that you are wasting money on a gym membership and not going everyday.

That color really brings out your personality (30 day confidence challenge day 2)

Every girl needs one thing to make them feel better about them self. This can be some thing like wearing your favorite shirt, blasting your favorite song or even wearing your the most outrageous color nail polish you can find. Whenever I need my own personal confidence boost I paint my nails my favorite shade if pinkish orange and usually i feel more confident about myself. Find a color that brings out your personality whether it is Hot pink bright blue or even neon orange. Still aren't feeling confident?? It never hurts to blast your favorite song. Who cares what it is, play it loud and dance around with one hand waving freely in the air. Write the lyrics somewhere you can see them. Feeling good with yourself when you're by yourself. You can't love others until you love yourself.

Thrown to the Wolves (The 30 day confidence challenge day 1)

Thrown to the wolves (A.k.A. 30 day confidence challenge day 1)
One of the hardest places to be know confident is in a room full of people that you hardly know... or better yet a room filled with men that you don't know at all. At this point you stoop to comparing your self to (in your eyes)the next best alternative a guy would choose over you. Don't deny it we all do it whether its just a quick glimpse and the thought of "Oh gosh why can't I just have (insert feature here)." However, you will always have something they don't.
I learned this thanks to a really good guy friend of mine. We were talking about how much i hate the way I look. I will admit I'm 19 and slightly over weight it comes to dating what we think is beautiful and ugly is determined by what others (namely men) think is beautiful and ugly. I learned, that one of my features that sticks out among other girls, is my smile (as told to me by a really good guy friend of mine).
Any ways, tonight as a true test of confidence (and two stepping ability) my girl friends and I decided to go to a local country night club. First off, none of us knew anyone there second off we were surrounded by a room full of men that none of us knew. So naturally me and my girl friends stood in a corner by ourselves contemplating how to attack this situation.. and from behind was not an option. Of course, there were a few boys I thought were cute but would I honestly go up to them and try to talk to them. Of course not, I stood there comparing myself to the next best alternative (which just happened to be a girl in booty shorts uggs and a button down shirt tied just enough to cover her baby fat). So I stood there wallowing in self remorse for about 30 seconds and then started talking to this boy standing next to us named Hunter. I mean it wasnt a deep conversation about the meaning of life, it was more of a "hey can you teach me how to play pool" but it still counts. Later in the evening (after a few tries on the dance floor and fantasizing about a couple cute boys that were out dancing), I mustered up enough courage to talk o the one boy i had been eying up for most of the night. His name was Brian. Again this was not a conversation about life by any means it was just a simple "hey nice to meet you" kind of talk. However, guy number 3 approached us. Guy number 3 stayed the longest. His name was Vince.
The goal in all this is, to leave them with something you have that they will never forget. Of course they are always going to remember the girl who wore booty shorts and uggs. (Tomorrow there waking up saying daymn that girl was weather confused.) But I'd rather leave them with "Daymn That girls smile was outrageous. I wish I got her number."
all the more reason to go back next weekend.

So what is the moral of today's story, instead of focusing on what you don't like about your self, find something you love about yourself and show it off

30 confidence Challenge(day 0)

The most important weapon a girl carry is confidence. However, some of us, myself included we are lacking in the confidence department. Tomorrow I plan on starting my own personal 30 day confidence challenge. Every day for the next 30 days I plan on some how doing one thing whether it is big or small to make me in some way more confident. The goal is not to change who I am but to be come more comfortable an confident with who I am.
So let the fun begin...